Have A Great Labor Day Weekend!

I hope you enjoy this weekend! Labor Day signals for me that Summer is coming to a close. Where has the time gone? Maybe you had a blast this year; maybe it was a challenge. Either way, the seasons are about to change. I don’t enjoy the shorter daylight hours in my region. I do enjoy the concept of change.

I used to hate change and then I was thrust into situations that forced me to change. Not all change is bad.

Life is this gift and if we are not careful we can waste it on things that simply do not matter. You can invest all your time and energy into a job or career that easily lets you go if the economy goes south. You can over give and waste hours of your life helping people while neglecting yourself. You may think you are being the Good Samaritan, yet in actuality you have failed to set appropriate boundaries. You can waste time being someone’s back up plan for when they don’t want to be alone or their other friends are busy or away. If we are not careful, summer can speed into winter and we remain in the same place.

I don’t know about you, but I hate wasting time unless I am resting. I need for life and interactions to have some form of meaning. Why are you at that job? Why are you friends with that person? What are you doing with your life? I ask these questions.

I may be a bit more reflective for a holiday than normal. I simply took some time away from my phone to reflect on life and to have less distractions while studying.

As the seasons shift and change, I asked if I was positioned for my best yes in life with God? Are there areas of my life that need tweaking so I can thrive? Am I connected to the right things and divine alignments, Are there people in my life who are energy vampires who just suck the life out of me? Where do I want to see change? Where does God want to see change?

Unlike a tree, if we see something that needs changed we can do something. One thing I desire to change is ceasing being a hostage to my phone or the whims of people. They are bored, so I must be available. They have a crisis, I must respond. It’s good to turn the phone off sometimes and just be a human being. It’s also great to spend time with people who choose you when they are not bored, not in need, not sick, not lonely, their favorite friend is not available, and they are not in crisis.

Part of living empowered, confident, and free is learning to set appropriate limits with our time, resources, and our lives. Without boundaries and balance, we can easily crash and burn or worse-waste our lives.

Which areas of your life need transition and change? What are you doing about it? Are you a hostage in your own life? You don’t have to be! Is Labor Day an escape from a life you hate, or a day of peace. It is supposed to be a cease from laboring day. Yet it can be an opportunity for reset, some reflection, and refining. What are your priorities in this new season?

I may be deep today, yet my thoughts have been focused more on getting the most out of life. I hope you have a great weekend and count blessings.

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Warmly,

Erin Lamb

Don’t just survive, LIVE!

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It’s A Blessing or Lesson

Some lessons learned (35 actually). I hope they bless or encourage someone.

1. People tend to value less what is free or where they have no investment. I love giving, yet found people trample under foot lavish giving. If it cost them nothing (time, money, committment, resources) they do not value what is provided. In a few rare cases you find people who genuinely appreciate what does not cost them anything. Psychology Today did an article that showed people who invest nothing have no attachment or sense of ownership. The one who gives or invests is the one who grows to love. Hence God encouraging generosity. Where you sow or invest brings forth an attatchment.

2. People will expect more from you than they are willing to give. I found there are many imperfect people expecting perfection out of everyone else. Or there are people who desire I support their business, their ministry, their dreams, etc…who would not lift a finger or even offer 50 cents for anything I do or anyone else.

3. If you don’t set proper boundaries, people will walk all over you.

4. It is possible to love people and still not give them access to your life.

5. Insecure and selfish people hurt others to cope with their own internal love deficit. People, myself included, can only give away love we possess.

6. Sometimes you reap or experience what you did not sow. Examples from the Bible: Jesus, Job, Joseph.

7. Favor is not a feeling nor do circumstances always reflect the favor of God. Joseph was thrown in a pit. Jesus went to a cross. You must pay attention to the entire story, not a chapter or two.

8. Mankind loves a celebrity, Christian or otherwise. Some people will only support you based on who you know, who they think you know, or to try to get close to someone you know.

9. You must care for all parts of yourself: Body, Soul, and Spirit. Neglect one and the others suffer.

10. People (some not all) are more comfortable with men being confident, assertive, intelligent, powerful and successful. We are still fighting gender stereotypes. Be confident, intelligent, powerful, assertive, and successful anyway. Your audience is God.

11. Some people use “God told me,” or “God said,” as tools of manipulation or to get their way. If God did not tell me, I don’t care what He supposedly told everyone else. I don’t move outside of peace.

12. People who put you down often think you are better than them.

13. Some people want you to suceed, just not more than them.

14. Some people don’t know they are prejudice, sexist, or racist. It just slips out and their cover is “I have a (fill in group they biased against) friend. I don’t see color or gender.” Pray for them. Forgive. Have teaching moments, “That’s rude. That’s racist. That is inappropriate.”

15. Learning to strengthen yourself in the Lord is vital! Don’t look for cheerleaders. Cheer for your own darn self.

16. Some people don’t want to be healed even when they state they do. They subconsciously gain attention or benefit from being sick or holding onto toxic mindsets.

17. I am not Jesus. I point to Jesus. If you let people think they have access to you 24/7, 365 days a week, they will run you into the ground then get upset you broke down.

18. It is common for people to want mercy when they sin and harsh judgement when sinned against.

19. The one who opposes you the most sees you as a threat. They see your potential even if you don’t.

20. Learning to love yourself as God does is wisdom and vital to thriving.

21. The most critical people suffer from low self esteem. Putting others down or harshly critiquing them is a means to cope with internal feelings of inadequacy.

22. Some people won’t support you for fear you will surpass them.

23. Rebuke is a friend to the false prophet/prophecy…”No I am not in agreement with that. No I do not accept your word.” People don’t know they are in error if everyone just nods and smiles. Correct in love, not mean spiritedness. Pray before confronting people.

24. Pushy people need loving correction and boundaries set quickly. If you give an inch, they will drag you miles.

25. We don’t owe anyone friendship. It is a gift to be stewarded.

26. Ministry is not meant to be a hostage situation. It’s okay to take breaks or resign from assignments with proper notice. I tend to give 2-3 months notice, longer if it’s a big role.

27. I get to choose with God who I mentor, vs. people telling me I am their mentor. If people will not meet me halfway with participation and playing their part. I have the right to cease letting people waste my time.

28. People treat us how we let them treat us. People waste our time because we let them.

29. Some people view love as agreement. Which it is not. I can disagree and still love a person.

30. God is not our trunk monkey (fixer) who does everything for us. We have a participation role to play.

31. Some of the people who cry out for revival the most are the least active in partnering with God to see revival. Talking and praying about revival is more important than actually going and doing the works of Jesus and making disciples.

32. Some people like their demons yet will try to convince you they don’t. Actions scream over words.

33. If you let people, they will cling to you instead of Jesus. Say NO!

34. You can pour your heart and soul into people that treat it like nothing. Bless them and understand people will NOT treat you any better than they do God. You are ultimately doing it for God.

35. Pray over relationships and every opportunity. God show me who this person really is. When He shows you, adjust accordingly. Love people, yet set proper boundaries.

Love,

Erin

It’s Time to Live Victorious (New Book Coming Soon)

We are almost across the finish line! I am finishing up the supplemental study guide for the Overcoming Church Hurt & Abuse book today.

This book was birthed out of conversations with clients from deep inner healing sessions and a friend who said, “We need a book to address abuse in the church.” It was not in my queue of books to write. I was working on a manuscript called Killing Insecurity. It’s still a work in progress. 🙂

In the past few years we have heard and seen the stories of #metoo and #churchtoo. Unfortunately, communities of faith are not immune from abuse, gross misconduct, or ungodly behavior. Every person can still choose sin. Abuse is sin. It is unfortunate when abuse happens in places that were intended to be safe, like family, and a place of healing.

I noticed abuse can slip under the rug because of wrong teachings about forgiveness, wrong teachings about submission and headship, and wrong beliefs about God. For many, it is far more detrimental to be abused by clergy. Then they are told to simply forgive and magically it will be like nothing happened. This is false. There are ways to restore/help both the abused and the the abuser.

Aren’t Christians supposed to be loving and perfect? Ha! I am not perfect, are you? Only God is perfect. I am a work in progress.

So, what are we to do about the abuse, control, manipulation, and gross mistreatment? What do we do when the people who claim to love God are failing in loving people? I highly recommend addressing it head on instead of ignoring abuse or telling people to forgive, build a bridge and get over the trauma or mistreatment they suffered.

We must cease sweeping things under the rug and deal with issues that violate God’s heart. It’s a part of justice. God loves to help the oppressed. The greatest commandment revolves around loving God and loving our neighbor as we love ourselves.

Overcoming Church Hurt & Abuse unpacks:

  • Why abuse happens.
  • How people who claim Jesus can be so cruel and unloving.
  • How to spot the red flags of abuse.
  • Wrong uses of scripture.
  • Why forgiveness alone is not removing all your negative feelings or pain.
  • How to get your soul healed!
  • How to keep your children and heart safe.
  • Setting boundaries and dealing with people who do not respect boundaries.
  • Moving from victim to victor.
  • Where was God and why didn’t He stop the abuse?
  • And so much more!

I hope you grab a copy of Overcoming Church Hurt & Abuse when it’s released next month and you share it with any person who has been physically, sexually, emotionally, verbally or in any way grossly mistreated by professing Christians.

I also recommend this book for those who have not been abused. I have never been sexually abused, yet I have learned so much and how to speak compassionately from working with abuse victims. Sometimes Christians say the wrong things. This book provides insight into the thoughts of an abuse victim.

I hope many are set free from deep rooted wounds. The first editor stated she experienced healing from reading the manuscript.

It’s time to heal.

It’s time to SOAR!

It’s time to move out of the land of being victimized and into the land of victors.

You may watch a short book trailer here: https://youtu.be/jlexF1HRpFA

Warmly,

Erin Lamb

Recalibration (What Grief Teaches You)

They say the best way to inspire others is by being transparent and vulnerable. I tried that in Christian community and well…my perspective is as follows. When you are still healing, it may be best to share with a safe community of people. Once you are healed, the story can be shared with others. Why do I say this? Because humans do not always think about the impact of their words before they speak. Some can be in a place of desiring to be helpful and they are actually quite harmful.

I love safe people, don’t you?

I met with a dear friend yesterday for lunch, a mini trip to the spa, and took her on a local tour. One of the things I love about her is her ability to listen without trying to throw a scripture on everything.

She has suffered great loss; I have suffered great loss, and we both know the untended un-helpfulness of sometimes well meaning people. They say, “You are so strong!” Or “You just need to trust God.” “You know God is working all things together for good.”

I sat across the table from a kindred spirit. Someone who understood grief deeply and did not see it as something to wish away, but something to walk through with God. Some days are incredible and there is great joy. Some days you do not desire to laugh, your heart is full of tears. Some days agony crashes upon you like a tidal wave and you pray earnest prayers for relief.

People around you wish for you to be better. Some will avoid you because they do not know what to say or they don’t want to be in the presence of a person overcoming grief or loss. It is rare to find the ones willing to simply sit on the boat with you, riding out the storm.

Why do we grieve?

We grieve because we have lost someone or something we loved. Love is the reason for the grief. Those who do not love deeply and do not attach, they do not understand grief. Those who have not lost someone they loved, are sometimes clueless how to respond to a hurting person.

God knows how to deal with grief. I also highly, highly recommend grief share and support groups for those hurting; groups where others have gone through loss or are going through loss. Having a community of people who get it is absolutely vital to not only surviving, thriving. I am so thankful for safe people.

Grief has taught me so many things and it has changed me profoundly. Have you gone through a painful experience that changed you?

I am not the same person I was a year ago. I stopped doing things that seemed like a waste of time. I am still refining my priorities.

I stopped caring what people on the internet were replying to my content. I started simply deleting negative and misguided comments instead of wasting time trying to explain myself.

I stopped trying to mentor people who were disengaged, not present, not putting forth effort, and not interested in pulling their weight. I have enough to carry. I do not need dead weight nor to exert so much effort into what is not valued or appreciated.

I stopped worrying about those “friends” who just disappeared. I moved on with my life.

I stopped trying to love people who kept rejecting or misunderstanding love or it was always one sided.

Grief taught me and is teaching me to stop wasting my life on things that don’t matter.

Grief taught me and is teaching me to take one day at a time and some days it is one moment at a time.

Grief has taught me and is teaching me to stop expecting people to get it and be compassionate. I must have compassion for myself. Self care is vital. Expecting people to see a need and respond is futile. I found safe people to ask for help.

Grief has taught me and is teaching me to rest more and stop pushing myself to be strong for others. I am human, not Jesus. I started cancelling volunteer events with no support. I stopped pushing myself to be the only person to show up.

Grief has taught me and is teaching me what matters and what does not matter. It has recalibrated my focus so things I used to do, I refuse to carry with me. I believe grief can be a powerful tool to shift our focus. What about you?

Grief has taught me and is teaching me who my real friends are. It has been eye opening the past 12 months. I am not angry nor offended by people, I simply have relationships that grew closer and some that disappeared.

Grief has taught me and is teaching me the importance of saying no. When people perceive you as strong, they forget you are a human with legitimate needs. So they come with their needs, their wants, their desires, and expect you to be strong for them and you. Well, no. I have said to a few people, “I would like for you to contact someone else.”

Grief has taught me and is teaching me an even greater importance of family. Friends can come and go, but family is so important.

Grief has taught me and is teaching me not to judge my life by the lives of others. “Oh they never have anything bad happen to them, what am I doing wrong?” I have learned grief touches everyone at some point in life. If it is not your neighbors turn now, it will be one day. None of us make it out of life alive or without any challenges.

I have learned I do not have to be strong, just because that is what others desire. I learned there are days I crumble into the arms of God exhausted from grief and I am the furthest thing from strong. I find comfort in being able to just be human. I look at this man named Jesus who was and is perfect in every way. He cried out to the Father in agony, “Why have you forsaken me?” Pain has a way of making the Father seem so far away.

I understand how Jesus felt. I understand how Mother Teresa felt when she wrote in her diary that she felt forsaken by God at moments in her life. It may seem blasphemous to some, yet I see no blasphemy in Jesus. He knew agony, grief, suffering, and His friends went to sleep. He knew betrayal by one of the ones He trained and loved. My encouragement is it’s okay to be human. We were not created to live in such hard place. We were created for paradise and sin brought and brings hell.

Grief has taught me and is teaching me the closeness of God even when He does not say a thing. He speaks in ways that sometimes are not heard, but they mark us. I laugh sometimes because as silly as it sounds, I think God is filling up my Pinterest feed. It’s one encouraging picture after another.

I want to encourage you, those who have suffered loss. I am sorry for the silly and lack of empathy/lack of compassion things people say. I am sorry if you feel you must always be the one towing the superhero line. God does not expect us to pretend loss does not hurt, nor to put on the fake Christian mask, “God is working all things for good! Rejoice in the Lord always.”

Let’s be real. Let’s be honest. Some days there may be a song in your heart. Some days there may be tears streaming down your face. Be human. You have permission to be human and invite God into your humanity.

I personally don’t have time for pretend. There are several things in my life/family that require a miracle. I am real, raw, and do not care how others feel about the process.

My encouragement…

God is with us on our best day.

God is with us on our worst day.

God with us is how we make it through the turbulent storms without drowning.

Let’s be real, honest, and inspire others to do so as well!

You are prayed for and so deeply loved!

Warmly,

Erin Lamb

He comforts those who mourn and binds up the broken hearted.

Confident & Free Speakers Announced!! 🎉🎉

These are the speakers & panelists for the first annual Confident & Free Event in Columbus,Ohio!

Erin Lamb, Laurie Coffman, Dr. Sandra Weppler, Hilary Lynne, Patti Navis Hathaway, Kristin Reeg, Shannon Hair Hodges, Jeana Borkholder, and Lynn Jones.

There will be three keynote speakers (top row), three activation speakers (middle row), and additional panelists (last row). Worship will be led by Lanita and CJ Gaul. They are absolutely wonderful prophetic worshippers. Prophetic Art will be done by Velma Butler.

We will have 2 panel discussions; One focuses on breaking out of limiting beliefs/legalism/religious mindsets. The other focuses on hearing from God, testing what you hear, true seer gifting, discernment, and growing in the prophetic.

Excited to give these ladies an opportunity to share their heart and experiences with growing in godly confidence and freedom. It’s a journey with Jesus.

Hope you join us for prophetic worship, soaking time, teaching, activation (you get to do something-not just watch), mentoring, Q/A time, and hear about how God is transforming the world through ordinary people called to extraordinary things!!

We all get to play as John Wimber would say.

We will also have areas where you can learn more about ending human trafficking and get involved in missions.

Men are welcome & encouraged to attend!!

Right now registration is discounted with an early bird rate of $89.

You may register at https://www.empowered-free.com/book-online.

You may also read speaker and band bio’s via the link above.

Warmly,

Erin Lamb

Christian Dating 101

Dating 101: This is in response to an article I read this weekend from a Christian man telling other men to just keep pursuing a woman if she seems disinterested-just try harder. Stalking (endless unwanted pursuit) is not love.

Maybe when men pursue women have no clue what is happening. I have found this true in my life. Why? I am direct. I am not passive nor hint. I also don’t play games, nor operate with hidden motives. Men have tried playing games with me, and I only play games with little children. 🙂 or they have been very ambiguous and well I don’t do well with people who do not communicate clearly. Or they have assumed unmarried means I am on the prowl for a man and they are the cure for my singleness. Well, no. I could be married, I chose not to get married and don’t enjoy men thinking they are my savior. They are not trying to pursue to add any value, they come as pushy consumers. I don’t like pushy nor find selfishness appealing.

Sometimes men give other men poor advice on women. Sometimes women give poor advice to other women. I truly believe God designed all relationships to be rooted in His agape love. Love that is not selfish, desperate, one sided, lustful, controlling, abusive, pushy nor stalker like. These are my top 5 for dating:

1. Investigate why you want to pursue that person or relationship? Is it to be a blessing or to consume or meet selfish needs. People wrongly quote Paul, “Better to marry than burn in passion.” Paul was NOT encouraging marriage to cure lust. You can no more cure lust by getting married than cure alcoholism by going to a bar. Nor is it good to pursue someone to cure being lonely, avoid peer pressure, or fear of the biological clock. God gave Sarah a baby in her old age, God is not limited.

2. Is there anything you are bringing to the table to add value? Would you be an asset or liability to someone? We can add value by asking God to refine our character. Beauty and money can fade. Godly character is priceless.

3. Is the other person interested? This matters. If the person does not want you, leave them alone. They are not your puzzle piece or the timing is off. Continuing to pursue someone or pine over them when they do not want you can be emotionally toxic.

4. Are you and the other person linked in purpose? They never want to leave the country and you are called to overseas missions. God is smart enough to link people headed the same direction. Sometimes people just get married off chemistry and the same beliefs, yet they are not headed towards the same destiny.

5. Do you have compability outside loving Jesus? It takes more than the same faith to make relationships work. Are you spiritually compatible and do you mesh well outside of worship gatherings? Can you laugh together? Can you have fun together? Are you friends? Do you have anything in common? Do you have similiar vision?

Sometimes men are taught to just go after what they want without ever considering if the woman is interested. This is not wisdom. It’s actually selfish. Just wear her down with the pursuit. Ummm no. If she wants to be with you, she won’t keep running from you. Also every unmarried women is not desperate nor sees being single as a curse. Maybe asking God, “Is this woman someone I should pursue?” Or try being a friend with no super pressure to be your wife. Or state your intentions; “I like you, would like to get to know you better.”

Women can sometimes wrongly find identity in relationships with men or by being a mother. Some try to push this on other women. God does not tell us to find our identity in anyone other than God. Those who feel like they are nothing with someone have made an idol of man. If a woman pursues marriage to find herself, well if that man does not measure up or constantly validate her-she’s let down. God invites us to have one God. Women are also pressured to settle, have very low standards, and marry/have kids by a certain age. I think God would prefer people remain unmarried than marry out of selfishness/desperation.

I think it would wonderful if people had as their heart intention, “I want what is God’s best for this other person. God am I your very best for them? If so, show me how to love them as you do, how to add value to their life, and be a radical blessing.” For friendships, dating, or marriage-the world would be better if the hearts of people were rooted in God love. His love pursues to be a blessing.

What are your thoughts on dating?

Love,

Erin Lamb

#dating

Making Disciples (Lessons Learned Series Part 1)

I love a good series. I have been focused on lessons learned lately. I believe everything is either a blessing or a lesson. There can be challenges in every area of life. The point is to learn something.

I hope throughout this series something blesses you! God loves you with an everlasting love!!

Mentoring and Discipling People Lessons Learned:

It is quite impossible to mentor or disciple a person who is not present, not invested, or refuses any form of feedback.

Imagine a teacher in a regular school. They are teaching calculus (one of my favorites) and the students never show up, never do homework, and when they give wrong answers they fight the teacher. What will they learn? Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

I have devoted a good chunk of my youth to mentoring/discipling-actual engagement and personal investment in the lives of people. They can text me, call me, email me, have lunch, be engaged, serve/minister with me, and I have walked with many. Yet I have seen the same patterns. I do not write this with judgement, just observation. I also understand we all have lives that can be pretty full and we must prioritize. I am not targeting any person-I promise. I am sharing patterns I have seen.

1. The person the least engaged will sometimes have the most complaints they are not getting anything out of something. I had a lady this February just go off on me because she was asked to at the bare minimum pray for others (it’s in the bible). She complained about how things were done, yet her attandance was less than 5%. How can you criticize something you don’t actively participate in or even know what is happening? Not offended, it just did not make sense. Insert “Does Not Compute”-my brain went ???? No worries she is not a FB friend.

2. Some will desire growth without any investment. I have a stock portfolio. If I do not invest any money in those stocks, guess what? I get zero growth. Zero. I can complain, blame my financial planner, or invest something so it can be multiplied. God gives seed to the sower. Sowers invest something. This principle does not just work for money. Sow kindness, sow mercy, sow encouragement, sow information, sow opportunity, sow revelation. You gain more of what is sown.

3. Some will desire growth until it gets challenging and then the heart will drift to something easy. Walking through the valley of the shadow of death is aborted to seek a frolic in the misty meadows. There are things about God we can only learn by walking through, being delivered through, pushing through. There are encounters with God in challenging seasons that refine our character.

4. Feelings can sometimes cloud what God has said. I cannot tell you how many people have come and stated, “God told me you were to mentor/disciple me.” Who when they got uncomfortable, “God told me to go do something else.” I am not stating you are trapped with a mentor, church, or person for life. I am stating feelings are not a good director. I have had dozens of things in my life I wanted to quit. Maybe even more. Sometimes the leader disappointed me or was quite offensive in behavior. Yet the point was to ask God, “Where do you want me?” I had a 7 year season under one ungodly leader. I learned so much about God, who I am in God, and the power of God to sustain a person in persecution. Saul teaches you something about the power and love of God.

5. Friends can sometimes struggle with honoring the leadership mantle you are required to wear. The most dishonor may come from “friends.” Hearing from you that something is off or the vision has expanded or we need to change course can ruffle some feathers. Stick to the mandate of Jesus. If He tells you to turn left and you lose friends-well keep going. Learning to abide in God and follow Him despite what others are thinking is wisdom. If you are leading “friends” understand that for some the friend just goes along and is supportive of everything. The leader answers to God for how they steward what He told them to do and who He assigned to them. It’s not personal; it’s Jesus.

6. Your heart may hurt over those where you can see their amazing destiny, yet they will not grab ahold to it and invest. You can offer copious amounts of opportunity they do nothing with it. Learn to let go and ask God to send mentees who will grab every nugget and opportunity and run with it.

7. Some may exit without even saying goodbye. Learn to hold people lightly.

8. Bless people when they come. Bless them when they go. I am happy for people when they are aligned with who and where God called them to be. No animosity. I pray and wish people the very best. It’s not personal. It’s beautiful when people are truly following Jesus.

9. Patience is your best friend. Learning to wait until God releases you to say or do something is powerful. The timing of Jesus was impeccable.

10. Keep growing yourself. Keep learning. Stay a student of Holy Spirit University. If you can find a mentor, invest in that situation. Feeding others is noble, staying fed is wisdom.

11. If you are a visionary, do not cling to everyone getting on board immediately with your vision.

Be willing to submit the vision, get feedback, and press onward with God even if the majority is not on board.

12. Cheer when people outgrow you! Yay God. Praise Jesus. Hallelujah. We want people dependent on God, not us. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

13. Continually ask God for His eyes, His heart for people. More than head knowledge, we need love plus God’s wisdom. God sees value in everyone. If we ask, He will provide His heart.

14. Do your best to be a good steward, yet leave the outcome to God. Some will not grow until you leave. I have had a few instances in my life where God told me to stop mentoring a few people or once a group. Years later a few came back with positive reports. At the time I felt I wasted time. I could have been doing something else besides being taken for granted by people unwilling to learn. Years later those seeds produced something good. It’s for Jesus. Regardless of the outcome, it’s for Jesus. Peter denied Jesus. Judas betrayed Jesus. The disciples abandoned Jesus in His greatest hour of need. Jesus was perfect. You and I are not. Yet we can do our best and still end up denied, betrayed, or abanonded. Focus on stewardship and leave the outcome to God.

15. Continually point to Jesus. What is God saying to you? Teach people to think for themselves, yet be willing to challenge wackanoodle concepts and behaviors with Holy Spirit and the word.

16. Be willing to stand your ground even with strong personalities. God has helped me to be slow to anger and more patient. I do not yell at people nor try to push my way. I try to stay on the side of love, compassion, and meekness. This can cause people to think you are weak and a pushover. Some with dominating personalities may knowingly or unknowingly try to bully you. No! If God called you to lead, test it, and if God says no, say no. Also if you are seen as weak because you are not nasty, pushy, argumentative, angry, etc…let people think what they want. I believe you can stand your ground without being a bully, yelling, being manipulative, pushy, loud, and mean spirited. Nasty is not a fruit of the Spirit. Love is. It is possible to be firm and kind. There are moments where we need to truly be “This will not fly here,” yet Jesus was willing to die for the same people where He flipped over the tables.

Hope this helps someone. Jesus told us to disciple people. I believe this is doing life with them, not just giving them teachings. When we do life with people it can be interesting, yet Jesus did it and modeled a lifestyle of discipleship. Who are you discipling so they can grow into their greatest potential with Jesus?

Warmly,

Erin Lamb

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Live for the Well Done of Heaven!

Morning Notes: It’s for God’s Glory not the Applause of Mankind. Live for the Well Done of Heaven.

The applause of heaven far surpasses the applause of mankind. I have learned in my journey of life that people can scream they love you one minute, think you are amazing, and turn quickly to ignoring you or persecuting you the next moment. The affections and applause of humanity is often rooted in feelings and subject to change in a moment.

People, human beings, also see in part and know in part. God sees everything and searches the heart. God knows who we really are even more than we do. God’s opinion of who we are trumps our own self assessments.

God is stable, consistent, and His opinions of everyone and everything are valid. There is no deception in God nor mistakes.

The assessment of God is just. The assessment of God is righteous. The assessment of God is truth.

To live already approved of in Jesus (we have repented and made a decision to make Him Lord) is a blessing. Then the opinions and assessments of people do not matter. Yes we evaluate correction, criticism-God is any of this to be taken in and assessed? Yes we listen to wise council and test everything presented to us. Yet we do not live in the land of being guided by the perceptions of people.

Who does God say that we are? This is the path to stay on and pursue. God show me who I am through your eyes and help me to stay on the path of righteousness for your names sake! I am living for an audience of one; knowing at the end of my life God will not hold a committee of my peers to assess my value, worth, successes or failures. God’s opinion+no one else’s=proper judgement.

Over the course of my life I have met numerous people who felt empowered to speak their ideas or thoughts about who I am and who I am not, what I am to do and what I am not to do. Well, anything not aligned with what God says goes in the garbage. Why? We are who God says we are and can do all God says we can do. Our heavenly assignments are predetermined by God. He put together our gift mix. He set up our potential opportunities. He gave us gifts and talents to enjoy and match our calling. God did! Who we ultimately are was carved out by God and placed on our DNA before we ever spoke a word (Psalm 139). We are God’s workmanship created for His glory.

Part of picking up our cross and following Jesus is dying to our own opinions. Do we think we know better than God? Do we think we have better ideas than God? If so, we have succumb to pride. Pride is an evil mistress and the principle sin of Satan. Pride believes it knows best above God. Pride keeps us focused on who we think we are and who we think we are not. At the center of pride is self….me…me….me…me. It sings the symphony of me! Pride is a killer of destiny. Pride fuels comparison-“Look at what Susie is doing! Oh I am far more spiritual than Susie. She thinks she knows, I know,” or “I am not as together as Susie.” Comparison is self focused and we either come out better than (superior) or less than (inferior). It’s pride. The bible tells us not to compare ourselves nor put weight on our own assessments.

May we die to self. May we die to the opinions of others and our own opinions. May we crucify the thoughts that puff us up in ourselves instead of exalt Jesus. We can only boast in the Lord and who He is. Yes we honor others and celebrate, we also know apart from God we can do nothing (John 15:4-5). God is the source. Therefore, we are not pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps. We are learning the deepness of surrender. God here I am, take all of me. I surrender it all. All for your glory. All for your goodness. All for your story to be made famous on the earth! I surrender my preconceived thoughts and plans and choose to align myself with you. Jesus did what He saw you doing. Jesus spoke what He heard you speaking. Jesus lived a full life of surrender.

Love,

Erin Lamb

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Transform the Mind; Transform Your Life!

Morning Devotion: Transform The Mind; Transform The Life. A Mind That Thinks Like God Manifests the Kingdom of God and Character of Jesus.

The invitation of God is relationship and life union; He is the vine, the living water, the wellspring, and our dwelling place. To be one with God is not attending services, it is a perpetual pursuit of intimacy (knowing) God (7 days a week).

God loves to pursue; God loves being pursuit. This holy pursuit and union leads to radical transformation.

We become like the gods we worship. As Ralph Waldo Emerson stated, “The gods we worship write their names on our faces.” Whoever or whatever we are exalting in our hearts and minds will be manifested in and through our behavior.

We will not out behave our thought life. The body will move in the direction of mind. The mind is not limited to the brain or neurons firing. The spirit and soul have the ability to reason, choose, and process information.

We are encouraged to abide in God and think like God. Jesus had oneness with the Father and Kingdom thoughts. Do we think like God?

Part of transformation comes from studying the word of God with God. I believe in inviting the Holy Spirit to teach. He is the Teacher. Jesus was called the Rabbi. The ability to rightly dissect the word of God and apply it is vital.

Deception is combatted with truth. It is not simply the truth that sets us free. It is believing the truth that sets us free. What do we believe about ourselves, our circumstances, or God?

If we believe negative, unscriptural things, then we will see our lives manifesting negative outcomes. If we believe we will never be free, never be healed, never get out of debt-guess what? We get to live in the house our negative thoughts and words built.

What if we transitioned to thinking like God? Be transformed by the renewing of your mind, the Bible says. God thinks in the realms of limitless possibilities, hope, the impossible made possible, wisdom, life, positivity, encouragement, love, goodness, and when God speaks He creates. Words create realms. God spoke and the world came into existence. The power of life and death is in our tongue. What are we thinking? What are we speaking?

….be transformed as you embrace the glorious Christ-within as your new life and live in union with him! For God has re-created you all over again in his perfect righteousness, and you now belong to him in the realm of true holiness,~Ephesians 4:24 TPT.

We are truly transformed through relationship with God and adhering to His truth. We cast down vain imaginations that exalt themselves above God. We take negative, unholy thoughts captive and make them obedient to the word of God. Do our thoughts align with Gods thoughts?

Take some time this week to inventory your thoughts. Are the good, pure, noble, full of God’s truth, or of good report? Or negative, unholy, selfish, fearful, lustful, and vain? Are you putting yourself down or listening to God’s encouraging words?

What we believe about ourselves, God, and our circumstances does impact our world. The words we speak become the house were we get to dwell. Do we want to live in a mansion or a shack? Do we want to thrive or just survive?

Jesus walked in great humility and confidence because He knew who He was, He knew the Father, and remained in oneness with the Father. His thoughts are higher. We are given access to the mind of Christ. Part of the transformation of the character and soul into the image of God transpires in the mind.

God help us to renew our minds with your word. Help us to be people who think like you. May we think endless possibilities in you, holy thoughts, life giving thoughts, righteous thoughts, and see the fulfillment of Christlikeness in our character, lives.

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Love,

Erin Lamb

Thriving in a Joseph Season

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Devotion: Thriving in a Joseph season. They may try to bury you, but God is going to elevate you. Overcoming sabotage and betrayal.

I love King David. I love the way God positioned David. David did not have to fight his way to the front of the line nor clamor for position. God saw David, God elevated David. David was hidden and quite insignificant in the eyes of others. People could not see what God saw when He looked at David. God saw a giant killer!

David was pursued by a jealous Saul. Yet the attempts of Saul to kill David were futile. God had a plan for David that could not be thwarted by the insecurity, jealousy, and hatred of Saul. David sought the Lord and was protected by God. He overcame not by power or might, but by God’s Spirit. He even said to Goliath, “I come in the name of the Lord.”

It is imperative when attacked to rely on God’s strength and wisdom, not our own. We overcome by His power and His strength, not our flesh.

Let’s talk about Joseph. Betrayal from family (spiritual or natural) is a far more challenging pill to swallow.

Joseph is sometimes tagged as arrogant because he shared his dream with his family. The bible does not call Joseph arrogant. He was enthusiastic. There is wisdom in understanding not everyone can hear your dream for jealousy can lead many to try to sabotage the dream. Some dreams are to hold close and pray for God to show you who’s going to come into agreement. Some may smile and try to sabotage the very thing they tell you they are prating for. We can learn from Jospeh.

God is so organized and such a great planner He already had the jealousy of Joseph’s brothers factored into the equation. He knew they would betray him. God knew Joseph would be thrown into a pit. God knew every step of the process to get Joseph from his father’s house to the Palace. God knew every detour, disappointment, attempt at sabotage, betrayal, and lie that would be spoken to Joseph that would lead to his promotion. People tried to bury Joseph, yet God placed seed in Jospeh.

When God speaks, it is seed. I love that Isaiah 55:11 says, “No word from God ever fails, it accomplishes all it is sent out to do.” When you blow seed on the land it will sink into the earth and grow. Unless that seed is eaten or plucked up, it is going to bring forth a harvest. God spoke seed to Joseph. It did not matter how many times people tried to bury him, the momentum of heaven was behind Jospeh to see the fulfillment of God’s destiny for him and a Nation.

So my encouragement to you is this, if God be for you, who can stand against you? Who can defeat the Lord, the Lord strong and mighty? Who can overthrow what God has ordained? God is more powerful than any force of a person or nature. God is the great I AM. He can open up the earth and swallow His enemies. He can part the Red Seas, raise the dead to life, move mountains. The winds and waves obey Him.

God prepares a table in the presence of your enemies. God is our feast!

You become my delicious feast

even when my enemies dare to fight.

You anoint me with the fragrance of your Holy Spirit; you give me all I can drink of you until my heart overflows,~Psalm 23:5 (The Passion Translation).

You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people,~Genesis 50:20.

God has a plan and it is good! No matter who comes against you, they are no match for the God who is for you. We can thrive in seasons of betrayal and sabotage by knowing God had it all worked into the equation, by knowing God is going to fulfill His word, and by knowing greater is He who is in us than He that is in the world. The champion of these stories is not David nor Joseph, it is God. God empowered both David and Joseph to overcome.

You and I can thrive instead of survive if we choose to follow Jesus and abide in Him during those challenges. God is good at turning ashes into beauty, mourning into joy, betrayal into elevation, and sabotage into promotion! Jesus is the perfect example of someone betrayed and sabotaged. If only the enemy knew his plan to destroy Jesus was going to elevate Him to the highest place in the Father’s Kingdom.

Papa, heal every soul wound on those sabatoged and hurt by betrayal. You have a plan to turn it for exceptional good. No weapon forged against your children will prosper. Heal the deep wounds and bring forth radical peace. Let your peace and comfort sink deep. Others may have tried to bury them, yet they are your seeds. Water the seed today. In Jesus powerful name, amen!

Love in Christ,

Erin Lamb