A Note on Covenant (Marriage)

  
Seek FIRST the Kingdom of God all all His righteousness…

Our country has been in an uproar over the marriage amendment. There are those demanding that marriage be defined the way God does, only 1 man and 1 woman. It is true this is the only covenant of marriage between human beings that God honors, that heaven honors. He made the guidelines. I did not. In the Garden of Eden He created them male and female (Genesis 1:27). They together complement each other. They together become one. They together represent God. Adam alone, man alone, does not represent the full characteristics and nature of God. He and she (Eve) together show us His nature. In His image He created them. 

Over the years I’ve seen marriage be elevated above the covenant with God. Adam and Eve had God before each other. The first Being Eve saw wasn’t Adam. It was God. Then God presented Eve to Adam. Adam had relationship with God before He ever knew Eve. Human relationships were never intended to replace God. Never, ever. 

If you read the Bible, especially Romans 1 you will see man’s greatest downfall is worshipping the created over the Creator. It is idolatry. Whenever we love someone or something more than God it leads to destruction. Our world has often elevated the husband wife relationship and human family above covenant with God, His Kingdom family, and pursuing Him. 

Singles scream, “If I could only get married then I’d be happy and complete.” 

Married couples say, “If only my spouse did this or were more like this, then I’d be happy and complete.” 

I will tell you a secret….

Only God can completely fill and satisfy the heart.❤️ 

Only God brings everlasting JOY! 

Only God is perfect!

Only God is intended to be worshipped. All idols demonize and destroy.

Only God can satisfy the deepest longings of the heart and spirit. 

Only God deserves highest priority in our lives, God first…

May we seek God, believe God, receive love from God, soak in His Presence, put Him first, get to know Him, deepen/cultivate friendship with God, and treat the covenant with Him as more important than a marriage covenant. 💍

In a healthy marriage we don’t just show up once a week for an hour or so nor do we treat our spouse like it’s their job to serve us or cater to our demands. We don’t read books about our spouse and refuse to do life with them. We don’t have other lovers, nor do we live a life displeasing to our vows. We pursue our spouse to love ♥️💯, honor, respect them, be with them, connect with them, & experience life together. God deserves more than an earthly spouse. His covenant is eternal and He loves more than a spouse ever could. 

May you and I seek first God and His Kingdom. If He’s first, He gives us the love, strength, joy, energy to love our families. 

Bless you! 

Erin Lamb

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Falling in Love

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This is a post I wrote for my Tumblr account, yet thought it might encourage you. Our culture worships being in love, feelings, and sex. God is the true source of love. If He is not, the things I mentioned become idols (demigods) in our lives. They lead to chronic disappointment and addiction; addicted to relationships, addicted to trashy novels, addicted to pleasure, addicted to romantic movies, addicted to sexual images or engaging in inappropriate sexual activities. God’s love produces life. Human love fails. Here’s the post. Blessings to you!

Falling in Love

Have you ever noticed in the movies people “fall” in love. The term is linked to passion, attraction, butterflies, and increased hormones. People fall in love, then they live happily ever after…I wish someone would write a real love story.

I want to see the “after”, after the hormone high fades. What happens when life doesn’t work out exactly as planned, when older parents become sick, when having kids puts a strain on your marriage, when the butterflies are gone, when there’s a job loss or betrayal, or you simply can’t stand the sight of the other person? That’s normally when people fall “out of love.”

I hear people say, “Our chemistry is gone,” or “We grew apart.”

These are real possibilities. If you fall in love, you can fall out of love. However, if you choose love, it’s always available.

Here are some things my parents who were married many decades taught me about love. My mum passed so that’s the only reason they aren’t together. I added some from other couples too!

Love:

1. You’re not always going to feel loving towards people. You choose to love them because God loves you.

2. Treat people better than they deserve because of who you are.

3. You can’t change people, nor should you try. You are only in control of you.

4. Don’t make your spouse God. They can’t save you or meet all your needs.

5. Love yourself!

6. Be a good friend. After years together, what will keep you hanging on and thriving is friendship.

7. Forgive. Forgive again!!! And again! And again!…

8. Don’t be a doormat. Every relationship needs boundaries.

9. Speak well of and show honor. Present them in the best light possible.

10. Work on you! Become the best person you can be. Don’t make a spouse your entire world.

11. Selfishness leads to misery.

12. What you nurture grows. What you starve dies. Relationships require mutual investment.

13. Tell the truth! Even if it hurts. Be a person of integrity.

14. Communication is important.

15. Settle disagreements quickly.

16. Protect your investment.

17. There’s always going to be someone with traits you like that your spouse doesn’t have, your job is to nurture your relationship. Don’t leave 80% for 20%.

18. God first, people second. If God is first it will help all other relationships.

19. Guard your eyes and heart. Affairs are prevalent in our culture. It starts with a thought. Cast it down. It’s not worth it.

20. Be your mates cheerleader and advocate. It’s a partnership. It’s a team. Both members are valuable, powerful, and need support. Share the workload.

21. Don’t put your kids above your spouse.

22. Don’t let yourself go! Take care of yourself for your spouse and yourself.

23. Find out what the other person likes and do it!!!

24. Don’t focus on finding the right person. Focus on being the right person.

25. Marriage is a covenant that’s meant to be for life. It’s joining two people together as one. It’s okay to truly evaluate if it’s the right decision. Pray, seek wise council, and investigate a person’s character.

26. Talk to God about your mate. It works better than nagging or holding grudges. God can do more in a moment than anyone can in a lifetime.

27. Marry the person who draws you closer to God and is a best friend.

28. Have fun!

29. During hard seasons pray and don’t rely on feelings.

30. Seek God for identity and security. Make Him your primary Source to prevent burnout.

Love is something we feel and choose…choosing to love a person is far more beneficial. Feelings are fickle and change like wind. People also cannot meet all our expectations. People change. People hurt us. If we are not choosing love, then we will only love when we feel like it, when it benefits us, when our needs are being met, or until someone shinier comes along. Granted if you’re being abused, seek help. Love sets boundaries and requires respect, honor, and it protects.

Worship is a War Song (Identity in Christ Part 8)

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There are people oblivious to the battle going on around us. The battle is for our peace, love, joy, and worship. Everything in creation was made to glorify God. We were created to love, adore, worship, and devote our lives to God.

Psalms 29:2 Ascribe to the LORD the glory due his name; worship the LORD in the splendor of holiness.

Psalms 95:6 Oh come, let us worship and bow down; let us kneel before the LORD, our Maker!

Philippians 2:9-11 Therefore God has highly exalted him [Jesus] and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

James 4:8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you…

Worship isn’t simply singing songs. It’s a lifestyle devoted to loving God and putting Him first in all things. When we put God first in all things, we are living out our identity as children of God. We were made by Him and for Him. He is the reason we all exist. Worship is not an obligation it is a response to His great love, mercy, and grace. Key notes about worship.

1. Worship is for Him. It’s not about us. Sometimes we make worship about us. Is it my favorite song? Or I will devote myself to God so He will give me something. Worship helps us die to self. It puts God on the throne of our hearts where He belongs. Love is not selfish. Worship trains us to be selfless.

2. Worship realigns our focus. If God is at the center of our thoughts and our lives, then other things are not. We sometimes worship our problems. We worship money. We worship people who can not help or save us. We worship ourselves, and we no ability to do anything without Him. We worship pleasure and created things. Anything we worship other than God is idolatry. Idolatry enslaves us. It’s offensive to God.

3. Worship changes the atmosphere. God is everywhere. When we worship, we are saying, “God come and take up more space in our hearts. You are welcome here.” If you are sick, sad, depressed, angry, tempted,  etc…I challenge you to worship God.

4. Worship defeats darkness. Judah was the tribe of worshipers. I find it interesting many times they were sent in first to battle.

5. Worship is a part of our identity in Christ. It is not optional. It’s who we are. We were all created to worship God. It does not have to be a song. We were created to give thanks to God, to adore Him, to put Him first, and to obey Him.

6. Worship is what the devil is after. Lucifer wanted to be worshiped instead of God. He is still at work today to take the focus off God. If he can’t make himself the focus, he works to turn people to worship everything else: money, fame, people, sex, food, entertainment, anything that makes God lower on the totem pole of our hearts.

7. Worship changes us. We become like the one we worship,~Bill Johnson. Whatever or whoever we worship is who or what we will become. A person who worships money will become greedy. A person who worships sex and physical pleasure, will become lustful. A person who worships food will become gluttonous or obsessed with food. A person who worships people will become a people pleaser. If we worship God, we become like Him. We begin to take on His characteristics.

Father, please forgive us for all the times we have placed someone or something at the center of our hearts. Forgive us for the sin of idolatry. May you be first in our hearts and on the throne of our hearts. May we worship you with all our hearts, souls, minds, and with all our strength. You are amazing! Help us to love you more. In Jesus name, Amen.

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