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Sex (physical intimacy) was God’s idea.
It started in a Garden…
The Garden of Eden was free of stress, strain, turmoil, offense, lust, sexual immorality, pain, shame, insecurity, regrets, adultery, all sin.
God created a lavish, luscious space for humanity. He gave them one boundary (don’t eat from the tree of good and evil or you shall surely die) and provided everything they needed for abundant life.
Adam had a relationship with God before He ever had a partner/wife. He walked with God. He talked with God. God gave Adam things to do. They had intimacy (knowing of each other).
One of the purposes for physical intimacy was to deepen oneness, union between man and woman.
God saw that Adam realized none of the animals looked like him. God created Eve (see Genesis 1). Eve was fashioned out of the rib of man. The first person she saw was God. She was fashioned to be a counterpart to Adam. They are both created in the image of God. They are both human. They are both equal in God’s eyes. Their body parts were designed to fit perfectly together and create life.
Another purpose of physical intimacy is the creation of a life. Every person on this planet was born.
If you’ve had any biology you know how babies are created. Men generate sperm. Women house eggs. Sperm+egg=baby. The DNA of the father connects with the DNA of the mother and you have a child. That child shares the DNA of each parent. A lineage is created. God gave human beings the awesome privilege of procreation.
He created Adam and Eve. He then blessed them and told them, “Be fruitful, multiply! (Genesis 1:28).” Essentially God said create more humans.
God created physical intimacy for agape love (selfless, sacrificial, pure, faithful, unconditional), unconditional acceptance, and to be known.
When Adam was presented with His unclothed partner there was no lust or selfishness or sin in him. He admired her as a person. Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man,”~Genesis 2:23.
Adam prophesied over Eve. It does not say Adam lusted after Eve, sought to take from her. He makes no comment on her body. He was without sin, therefore operating out of love. Love seeks to give. Love sees a person, not an object of pleasure.
Scripture goes on to say later Adam knew Eve. He was physically intimate with her. This knowing is more than connecting with her flesh.
Sex is more than physical intimacy. It is a connection of the body, soul, spirit. It is saying, “Whatever is in this person, I am inviting into me. We are becoming one spiritually, physically, and connecting soul to soul. We will bond together, imprinting on each other’s soul. This is a place to be unconditionally loved, served, blessed, and known.”
I have heard people say sex does not connect them deeply to others. This may feel like truth on the conscious level, yet in my experience in the Word of God and ministering deep inner healing with people I have found sex connects people deeper than their mind will admit. You find people still carrying imprinting on their minds from images of pornography, fantasy novels, scenes on tv, from experiences with past lovers, from their own self pleasure. You find men unable to commit because they are carrying around the imprinting of all the women they have taken from over the years. Lust never satifies. It works the same for women. You find people unsatisfied with their spouse because of their extracurricular sexual activities.
Sex is like super glue, yet more powerful. It is intended to bond a natural born man and woman for life. When you pry them apart, there is residue (imprinting) from the other that goes with them. There is a tearing that occurs. There are things that have been shared in the spirit and soul that remain.
Media does not talk about the soul and spirit connections. Media promotes doing whatever feels good. It’s just like eating food. This is very untrue. Sex is more than eating a burger. It’s sharing all of you with someone.
There was Dorothea (not her real name) who began sleeping with her boyfriend who was heavily involved in the occult. Things begin to happen in her life that were paranormal. It tooks months to free her and bring peace back into her home. Mainly because of her dishonesty about physical intimacy with this young man.
There was Ben (not his name) who was teased for being feminine. So he thought, “If I am gay I should find out what this is.” He went online and began watching gay porn. This lead him down a path of addiction, poor choices, and a lifestyle of immorality. He has struggled deeply with identity, immorality, love, and purity.
There was Jeremy (not his name) who was clouded with lies that manhood was expressed by sexual activity. He slept with over 300 woman and has intense trouble committing to anyone or being faithful. He struggles with intimacy, love, identity, and loving others. Women are to be used, not loved.
If you are practicing sex outside the covenant of marriage between a natural born man and woman you may be saying, “I am a good person. My partner is a good person. We are not hurting anyone. We are not like those stories shared.” Well, God provided boundaries for a reason. Living oustide His boundaries and guidelines is what got Adam and Eve into trouble.
In deep inner healing sessions people are sometimes shocked at what is imprinted on their souls from sex, pornography, movies/media, etc…
God longs to protect who He loves, people. So He established a union and boundaries for physical intimacy that is rooted in committement, faithfulness, and agape love (unselfish, pure, sacrificial, unconditional love).
Papa God thank You that every good and perfect gift comes from above from the Father of Lights, You! I ask for any person reading this to offer up their sexuality and ideas about sex to You. Any areas of compromise, I ask they would be surrendered to You. Purge each soul willing from imprinting of images, media influence, past unions. Wash it all in Your blood. Remove any residue. I bless each person with restoration and purity. In Jesus mighty name. Amen.
P.S At the end of this series I will go through some soul healing/restoration tools!