Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body,~1 Corinthians 6:18 (Amplified).
Our culture is super saturated with messages about sex that is leaving us multitudes of the sexually broken and confused.
Why this series? What can I bring to the table? Well, I am trained in deep inner healing and caring for the wounded soul (mind, will, emotions) and spirit.
In meeting with people and walking them through the healing process you get to see the aftermath of choosing a way that is outside God’s boundaries. I have seen what sexual sin does to the soul and spirit of a person.
I’ve watched people I deeply love have their lives turned upside down because they chose their way over God’s.
I’ve seen the blessings of doing things God’s way, even when people say you are crazy for pursuing purity.
I’ve seen how God restores, heals, mends the sexually broken. There’s always hope in Jesus.
If I can prevent one person from wounding their soul or the soul of another, it is worth writing this series. If I can walk one person into freedom, it is worth writing this series. I hope to give you tools to walk in purity, tools for mending the broken or wounded soul/spirit, and courage to stand when your flesh is crying out, “Cave in!”
I hope to give you information from the word of God and His view on sex. Why on earth did God design us the way He did?
Part of my ministry is focused on intimacy with God. I hope to dive into God’s orginal design for intimacy between human beings.
God is not timid, bashful, afraid, or ashamed of sex (it was His idea). He is also not out to shame us, harm us, or hurt us. God loves us. God loves what He created. God blesses sex between a natural born man and natural born woman in covenant (life time committed love/relationship). We will talk about covenants later.
So let’s get started…
I grew up being told not to have sex before marriage. There was little explanation as to why I shouldn’t have sex outside marriage. Maybe people were unaware of the impact sex has on the soul and spirit of a person.
I watched young boys be told, “Men will be men. We cannot expect purity out of them, but you girls better behave.” I am a logic driven person. So these statements made no sense. Who exactly were these boys going to be practicing being “men” on…someone’s daughter.
Having sex, btw, does not make a man a man. Being a male is something God gives through the DNA. The chromosomes of men read XY, male. Yes there is growing from being a boy into a man, yet scripture never links manhood to sex. If it did, Jesus would not be considered a man. He did not have sex with anyone. We read of Godly manhood linked to being responsible, full of integrity, humble, dependent on God, compassionate, walking in selfless love, honoring and empowering women, laying your life down, purity, caring for the weak, honesty, etc…Jesus modeled perfect masculinity.
I watched girls in my middle school, high school, and college be shamed for their choices to engage in sex, while boys were celebrated, “Atta boy! He’s man now.”
Women were shamed for desiring physical intimacy and men were celebrated! It sent a message to women, “Desiring physical intimacy makes you dirty, unclean, unholy.” No wonder some Christian women report not enjoying intimacy with their husbands and shame over their desires or past.
Culture tells men, “Take, take, take from women. Commitment makes you weak. Engage in whatever makes you feel good. She was created for your pleasure. It is all about you. You are the man.” Our culture promotes selfishness which is sin. Love is not selfish.
I have listened to men around me over the years sexualize women (“women are good for one thing…ha ha, man grunt“), promote manhood as being promiscuous, and view sex as the most important thing in the world.
I’ve been on the receiving end of sexual harassment, men commenting on my body parts, approaching me in ungodly ways based on their lust or passions. I have been bombarded by images of women idealized based on their bodies or measurements.
I dress modestly, yet that does not prevent the occasional man from ogling me like a bacon sandwich or following me around to stare at me. When called out on their behavior, I have been told, “Men can not help themselves. We are visual.” So I am blamed for their lack of self control. I wear clothes that completely cover and it still does not help.
Lust is a spirit and heart condition. It is not the natural wiring of man or woman. Adam did not lust after Eve. Eve did not lust after Adam. They knew love (we will talk about lust later).
I’ve also seen Christian men run from women they found attractive. “I dont want to sin, run Forrest run!” This behavior has left some Christian women feeling deeply rejected. They are pursued by nonbelievers and avoided by men who claim to love Jesus. “Get away from me Jezebel! You temptress!!!” God told us to live out of love, not fear and suspicion. Every attractive woman is not out to seduce every man and vice versa. We use wisdom, not fear. Also natural sexual attraction is not lust. Lust seeks to take and devour for its own pleasures.
I’ve been ridiculed for choosing God’s way or agreeing with Him about sex or purity. I have had guys bypass me because I refused sex outside marriage (yes, they claimed to be Christians). I have heard the statements, “Times have changed. That’s old fashioned.”
God has not changed the boundaries He established because the consequences are the same. He is not double minded. Living outside His boundaries leads to brokeness.
So, I hope this series gives you honest things to ponder. I hope it inspires you to investigate God’s original design. I hope you ask questions and see God’s viewpoint of sex. It was His idea.
I hope your heart and mind grow to know God more. Placing God at the center of everything is a sure way to find blessings! I pray healing takes place.
Until next time, here are some resources for you and I will close us in prayer.
Moral Revolution Website: Moral Revolution
Moral Revolution Book: Moral Revolution Book
You can also find Moral Revolution and DeVon Franklin on Instgram.
Papa God thank You for Your original design. Thank You for all of creation. You are beyond genius. I pray every person reading this series has an encounter with Your Holy Spirit. I ask all shame, guilt, and condemnation be laid before You. For those struggling with purity, I ask for increased awareness of Your love and sustaining power.
Purity is more than refraining from sexual activity. It is the status of the heart. Any impure motives in our hearts, I ask they are cleansed. Any selfishness in our hearts, please cleanse. Any unholy images or memories, be cleansed by the power of Jesus.
Help us to live with Your eyes and heart, viewing people the way You do. Help us to view physical intimacy the way You do. I speak healing and wholeness to each soul. I ask for a cleansing of the heart and mind, in Jesus powerful name. Amen.
Love in Christ,