Killing Insecurity (God Wants You Confident!)

  
I wrote this post primarily for women, yet it may encourage men too. I will get back to the relationship series. My next post in that series will most likely be on sacred sex-God’s original design for physical intimacy. 

This post is to encourage the hearts of women to slay insecurity. 

Morning warriors for Jesus! 

Oh my, you are treasures. You are loved, cherished, and celebrated in heaven. You were and are God’s creative design. You mean SO much to Him. Do you believe that? I hope so. I hope today to share some of His word, His heart, and some of my heart. I hope you walk away encouraged. I hope and pray any lies the enemy planted in your heart are uprooted forever. When we believe lies, we empower the Liar. Jesus defeated him already, let’s not partner with him. 

Here goes…

Being a woman is a gift. We represent a side of God that man does not. We are not better than men, nor or we less than. Our value is far beyond our sex appeal, sexual organs, outward appearance, reproductive abilities, or the status of wife/mom. It may blow you away to know God values more than our flesh. 

I’m an observer, it helps in science. I notice women are mostly applauded for outward beauty (which is subjective to whoever is choosing), sexual appeal, her ability to please/support/serve a man, or her ability to be a wife or mother. There are less women being celebrated for simply loving God, courage, stamina, creativity, uniqueness, humility, etc…

What if you’re not society’s view of beautiful or sexy? 

What if you’re not the ideal size, measurements, or hair color/eye color combo? 

What if you have a few or many grey hairs or wrinkles? 

What if your contribution to society is different? 

What if your IQ isn’t the highest, genius level? 

What if you aren’t able to have children? 

What if you’re single, widowed, or divorced? 

What if you don’t have a mega ministry? Or a Fortune 500 company?
What if you aren’t rich? 

What if your earthly family or history is filled with brokenness? 

What if you don’t fit into social cliches or popular groups?  

What if your ethnic group is looked down upon or oppressed in society? 

What if you are a wife and mom and that’s your primary focus? 

Well…

There’s no marriage or sex in heaven. There are also no beauty contests. There’s no IQ test. There are no personal companies to run. There is no disparity; social, economic, or by ethnicity. 

What then will woman be doing? What was she truly created for? Oh I love this part. She will love and reign with Christ forever. She will see herself and God without the tainting of sin. She will be respected and honored for who she is. She will worship God forever. 

More good news: God created us for Him! We were created to know Him, love Him, enjoy Him, find life in Him, and be with Him. You and I were His idea. Each person has a unique role in His Kingdom. There are no inferior people. And men will not dominate women in heaven or vice versa. 

I don’t believe I’ve heard many sermons on what we will actually be doing in heaven that’s straight from the Bible. I’ve heard people talk about their dreams/visions. Yet I love the word of God. Yes! 

  • We will live in Paradise (Luke 23:43).
  • We will worship (Revelation 22:3).
  • We will keep learning about God (Isaiah 57:15).
  • We will be fully known as we are and be with others who loved/accepted Christ (1 Corinthians 13:12).
  • We will serve God without the hinderance of sin. There will be no suffering (Revelation 21:4). 
  • We will be given rewards based on how we lived and given assignments. Not everyone will have the same rewards or assignments (all verses can be found here Heavenly Rewards and Assignments

See link for verses to substantiate claims (What Are We Doing in Heaven?

You and I were created by God and for God. 

Okay Erin, that’s nice but I’m still feeling insecure about (fill in the blank)…my age, my size, my role on earth, my appearance, my career or lack of career, not having a family, having a family and feeling overlooked…

Well here are some things from Papa God. 

Feelings are not an indication of truth. What I say is truth. I love you profoundly more than you can imagine and I long for you to stand in confidence. Confidence in knowing I created you. Man may judge you, overlook you. I never will. The world may judge you by superficial things, yet I long for you to find your identity in Me. I carved you out of my heart. I sculpted your DNA out of My imagination. I laughed. I smiled. I invited the Angels to come see what I had done. I watch over you in the night seasons, eagerly awaiting the opportunity to be with you. I want to be with you. I love being with you. You are My daughters, My Princesses; you are Royalty. The evil one works so desperately for you to think less of yourself than you are. He hates the love, passion, stamina, and life I created in you. You are intricate and complex. I took My time handcrafting you. You bear My glory! I stood back and marveled at the work of My hands. I fashioned you. You are marked with My fingerprints. You have infinite worth and value. It’s not based on what you do or have done or your earthly titles or status. It’s based on who you are in My eyes; it’s based on who’s you are. You are Mine and I am fully yours. Stand tall. Stand tall in My love, My affirmation, My approval given in My Son. Sink your heart into Mine and thrive!” 

Father God please reveal any lies we have come into agreement with about ourselves or our circumstances. I ask that Your Holy Spirit would place His finger on every lie and we’d renounce them. Please forgive us for downplaying who we are, Your divine design. Please forgive us for any jealousy, comparison, or complaining about Your handiwork-us. Please forgive us for insecurity which a fruit of the sin of unbelief. Infuse us with unwavering faith, courage, and confidence. Give us eyes to see You, ourselves, and our circumstances the way You do. In Jesus powerful name, amen. 

Love, 

Erin Lamb

P.S I’m writing a book called Killing Insecurity. My prayer is it inspires and is used by God to heal many. 

Men were created to love, not lust (Relationship Series)

  
Morning Devotion: Adam was created to love, not lust or selfishness. 

Love is pure. It is not selfish. Love seeks to lavishly give, protect, serve, lay it’s life down for a friend. Love honors. Love is holy, without sin. God’s love never fails. 

Adam and Eve were created to love like God. Before they sinned, they knew agape love and had no insecurity nor selfish agenda. When Adam saw his unclothed wife, his first response was to speak life over her-not to comment on her body or try to use her or take from her for his own pleasure. 

When I hear men define manhood by lust, it saddens me. Lust is selfish. It’s seeking to take from others, instead of give to others. It’s the opposite of man’s true identity, the identity given by God when mankind was created in His image. 

Selfishness is not a God characteristic. God SO loved the world, He GAVE (John 3:16). 

God did not create Eve simply for Adam’s pleasure. She represents half of the nature of God. In His image God created them male and female (Genesis 1:27). 

So the phrases, “Men will be men (meaning sin defines manhood),” or “Love is for women,” or “Only wimps serve and have compassion,” are truly an insult to original design. God created Adam to love. God is love. There’s no selfishness nor lust in God. 

Our world has redefined love by human standards. True love was and is modeled by Jesus. May we abide in His love and then give that love away. 

Love, 

Erin Lamb 

Enjoy Your Season (Relationship Series)

  
I have learned how to be content with whatever I have,~Phil 4:11 (Apostle Paul)

There’s beauty in contentment. It’s the ability to express gratitude in the moment, in the season. It’s a choice to look at what God is doing, what God has done, and find joy in Him alone. 

I’ve met so many people on my walk with God who are waiting for something to happen to enjoy life. If only I could, “Have a boyfriend or girlfriend.” If only I could, “Get married or have children.” If only I could, “Have a best friend or tons of friends to do things with, then I’d be happy.” 

The problem with this type of thinking is it negates that every blessing brings a new set of challenges. Adding people to our lives reduces the amount of free time we have. We have a new level of sacrifice that is required if we want to be good, quality friends and not deadbeats. We have to learn the other person’s strengths and weaknesses. 

The movies often do a poor job of expressing the reality of real relationships. They don’t show the seasons, the learning, the growing, the akwardness, the suffering, disappointment, or sorrow. What is painted is non stop Magical Kingdom. Who doesn’t love adventure, fun, good times all the time? The reality is anything worth having takes effort. 

Healthy relationships are also based on two people having their own lives and identies. Unhealthy relationships are codependent. When relationships are used as a means to find identity and happiness it leads to heartache. 

I’ve had long term relationships. My happiness did not come from that person. It came from God. So when God let me know that relationship wasn’t headed in the right direction I could step away and still live a fulfilled, joyful life. 

People don’t complete us, God does. Any source of identity or fix for contentment outside God leads to pain. People are not God. God never intended for others to fulfill us. 

Contentment in God is the best place. God does not change. God is stable. God’s love and affection is not wavering. He doesn’t love one minute and then withhold love another. God’s love isn’t shallow, based on our appearance or what we can do for Him. God’s love isn’t selfish. He’s not simply looking out for Himself. God’s love isn’t based on merit, it’s independent of our behavior. 

An identity rooted in Christ is rock solid. An identity rooted in relationships with people is like the shifting sands. It can fade away. Spouses can pass away, children too. Friends can come and go. Dating or courtships can end. No one can separate us from God’s love. 

Joy rooted in God grows with relationship and abiding in Him. Joy rooted in what’s happening is simply happiness and can be taken away or shifted based on circumstances. 

Contentment rooted in who God is lasts for eternity. 

I’m unmarried…so I continually give thanks for the following. 

  • God’s unfailing love and friendship. 
  • As much time as I want with God.
  • The ability to truly invest in people’s lives without distractions. 
  • The ability to be present without wondering what a spouse or children need. 
  • Sleep and rest.
  • Traveling wherever I want to go, whenever I want to go. 
  • The ability to be involved in and lead multiple ministries. 
  • Time with my family that’s undivided-there’s one not two families to keep up with.
  • Serving others by opening my home, giving of my time. 
  • A clean house. 
  • Money to bless others in need. The ability to sow into others without checking in with someone. 
  • Peace. 
  • Quiet. 
  • The ability to work and go to school.
  • Learning more of who I am in Christ and my individual destiny with God. 
  • Feeling loved and cherished every day by God. 
  • Being under God’s authority which is always used to love and protect, not out of selfishness or control. 
  • Being loved for who I am not what I have to offer or my physical appearance. 
  • Growing in Godly confidence and wisdom.
  • Writing and lots of time to write/create. 
  • Adventures with God and friends.
  • Building a business with God. 
  • Time alone with Holy Spirit to be taught by Him.
  • Having my heart, mind, body protected.

I also give thanks for the basics: food, water, shelter, and clean clothing. I give thanks for everything! God is good all the time. In every single season, God is good. 

Whether you are married or single, theres something to be thankful for and contentment can be found in God. I encourage everyone to make a list of things they are thankful for and thank God. 

God bless you! 

Erin Lamb